How Does it Happen? #15

In the nearly eight years since Brian left, a lot has happened. I’ve said before that there are a lot of stories and experiences to share and that the purpose for doing so was to help others who are grieving. I feel like it’s time to get on to the heart of the matter, so to speak. To talk about encounters of a more difficult nature to explain. Subject matter that for someone who has never experienced anything similar or have no prior belief in may find, well frankly, unbelievable. It’s not my job however to make you believe. All that I can do is to relay to you what has happened to me personally. Your belief in it is your own. My hope is that it opens your eyes to the possibility that there is much more to what is there than what we can see and touch, or that we were brought up to believe. You are reading this because you were led here for one reason or another. Take it for what you will.

Before beginning to tell the stories, I think it’s important to lay out a couple of things about how “it” happens. “It” being communication with spirit/passed on loved ones/etc. As I do so, I reiterate that I can only relay what has happened and happens for ME. Others have experienced it in the same way (which provided validation in the beginning that I was not losing my mind), while others experience things differently. I have done much reading and talking and looking into what has happened in order to learn and make sense of it but I share my own experiences and do not pretend to be an expert. To help with understanding the myriad of ways “it” can happen, below are examples and explanations of what may occur starting with the most basic.

Dream visits: these are beautiful and a huge favorite of mine. How do you know the difference between a dream and visitation in a dream? It’s not hard actually. In a regular dream, your loved one will simply be in it like everyone else in the dream. The context of the dream will remain unchanged. It will seem normal that they are there. A visitation however is VERY different. In this case, your departed loved one will appear within your dream, out of its normal context. You will be aware and alert to the fact that they should not be there, that they are dead and gone. You will feel unbelievable joy in seeing them. They may or may not speak to you, embrace you, etc. They are normally short but powerful and leave you feeling incredibly peaceful upon ending. This will stay with you for some time upon becoming fully awake even though you are questioning what happened (because your logical mind doesn’t understand). Often, your loved one will look younger than they were when they left you. This is very common – I mean, wouldn’t you?

Tapping your energy field: this is very common but more difficult to pick up on. We can all do this but some of us are definitely more adept at it than others. Again, difficult to explain. The best term that I can use is “sixth sense.” You know when you FEEL something, or something comes to you, that you all of a sudden have a memory or a thought that you cannot shake? It’s like that. Often, if they are around you, and are trying to talk to you, it feels like that.

An example for instance. I was home working one day when I kept getting, out of nowhere, thoughts of yellow roses. Very random. It went on for a while until I was opening my pantry door and saw birthday candles and it hit me, my mom’s birthday (who is gone) was in two days. I felt a sudden physical warmth come over me when I said out loud, “oh Mom, it’s almost your birthday isn’t it?” You see, she loved yellow roses. I felt complete joy and peace knowing she was there with me and knew how happy she was that I heard her.

They can do this, they are just there like any other being who might be in the room with you – you would feel them. This being might make you feel happy, sad, etc. Being still and open to it helps. You will absolutely know when it happens.

Meditation: This is a great way to make contact and I include it because it would be wrong not to. If it’s something you want to try, I would not recommend that you sit down yogi style and try to hum your way through it. You’ll never try it again. There are lots of free guided meditations online that you can use (some are MUCH better than others). I believe that it’s a great practice to go into for peace of mind first. Anything that comes after is just icing on the cake.

The premise however is that if you can learn to quiet yourself and elevate yourself to a place beyond the hubbub of this plane, you will be more open to “hear.” It does work for a lot of things. You would be amazed. It’s been around for centuries for good reason.

Signs and synchronicities: This one kind of fits in with messing with your energy field and I’ve written about it before, but it bears repeating. Somehow, someway, they figure out how to use their energy to manipulate things around you. Remember, they are NOT GONE. They are just different now. The soul is still full of energy and can be felt. Synchronicities happen when they prompt someone else to make something happen to get your attention. Signs come along when they actually do something to say, “hey – it’s me!”

You may even see something if you are really lucky!

Astral projection/travel: So, here’s where it gets beefy – the point where if it never happened to you, you can’t even imagine. For me, it’s happened since I was very young but in very limited capacity. The only person I every shared it with was my mom who completely believed what I told her as I encountered what I believe was an Angel and a spirit guide at a pivotal time in my life. This experience left me full of joy and hope that all would be ok. I knew from that moment on that there was more. I was shown by these beings hope for a future and felt pure bliss in that time frame. Since then, and after the loss of Brian, things ramped up and experiences became aplenty. Fascinating, joy filled, funny, just downright cool things that I can begin to tell in future posts now that the groundwork is in place.

To be honest, this is the hard part to tell. It sounds completely crazy I KNOW! So, what is it exactly? For me, it is when your being or soul leaves your physical body and goes elsewhere. When people have “out of body” experiences at the point they are close to death – they report seeing themselves from above, being witness to what happens in the room, etc. It is much like that. What happens at that point varies and is honestly where the stories begin.

It has been the place where much communication and seeing my son has taken place. There has been love and humor, as there was here before he left. The subject itself is too difficult to take on in a single post and the stories varied and difficult to grasp. I only hope that with guidance I do figure out how to do the retelling of it all justice.

I believe that there are lots of us out there who have had some or all of these experiences in some form or another, the courage to talk about it is a whole other thing. It has been my experience since beginning this journey that if you are brave enough to step out, you will be met with lots of “me toos.”